http://www.lifebeyondcode.com/2005/05/10/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-25-walk-away-from-free/ Personal and professional development for technology professionals. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 10:46:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1-alpha-10188 hourly 1 http://www.lifebeyondcode.com/2005/05/10/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-25-walk-away-from-free/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Anonymous Wed, 11 May 2005 02:19:59 +0000 http://www.blog.lifebeyondcode.com/2005/05/10/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-25-walk-away-from-free/#comment-104 Tim, Nice comments. Thanks. I thought about it and did not want to use the word "gift" anywhere. It is one thing to receive a gift (of course, it is free) and the other thing to anticipate "free" things as in having an "entitlement" mentality. I was covering the later in the post. I will polish this up in the next round. Tim, Nice comments. Thanks.
I thought about it and did not want to use the word “gift” anywhere. It is one thing to receive a gift (of course, it is free) and the other thing to anticipate “free” things as in having an “entitlement” mentality. I was covering the later in the post.
I will polish this up in the next round.

]]> http://www.lifebeyondcode.com/2005/05/10/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-25-walk-away-from-free/comment-page-1/#comment-103 Anonymous Wed, 11 May 2005 02:08:08 +0000 http://www.blog.lifebeyondcode.com/2005/05/10/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-25-walk-away-from-free/#comment-103 You write..."If the offer is very compelling, then please decide how you will contribute back to the source in exchange for what you received." While I believe that it's always nice to reciprocate when someone gives you something, doesn't the idea that you receive a gift with the sense that you must give back in some way negate the idea of "free? (which is what you suggest in #1)" My understanding of "free" is that there is nothing required of me. If there is reciprocation, it flows out of a sense of gratitude. But if a person is giving or doing something for "free," there must be no expectation of anything in return. The question that I have is what effect "free" has on a relationship? If a person does give away something for "free" because they ultimately expect something in return (at some point), then their gift is not truly "free." Interesting concept. tim You write…”If the offer is very compelling, then please decide how you will contribute back to the source in exchange for what you received.”
While I believe that it’s always nice to reciprocate when someone gives you something, doesn’t the idea that you receive a gift with the sense that you must give back in some way negate the idea of “free? (which is what you suggest in #1)”
My understanding of “free” is that there is nothing required of me. If there is reciprocation, it flows out of a sense of gratitude. But if a person is giving or doing something for “free,” there must be no expectation of anything in return.
The question that I have is what effect “free” has on a relationship? If a person does give away something for “free” because they ultimately expect something in return (at some point), then their gift is not truly “free.”
Interesting concept.
tim

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